A lot of the reading I've been doing as I strive for my '10,000 hours' (estimated time it takes to become an expert on any one thing) mentions quotes from "A Course in Miracles."  I signed up for the class to see what all the hoopla was about.  I won't go into the history or the origins of this work but if you're interested, check out http://acim.org.  There are daily lessons--one years worth (yep, 365 lessons).

Lesson 1:  "Nothing I see in this room (on this street, from this window, in this place) means anything. 

Okay, I get it.  They want you to start working on detachment.  Detachment from things and realization that our perception of things make our reality.  But what is reality? 

Quantum physics puts a strange spin on it.  It says in layman's terms that nothing really exists until someone notices, or perceives, that it does.  There are only possibilities, potentials, and by observing and interpreting these results, we are able to influence the outcome.  So, by assigning a label, or deciding it is X or Z, we make it so. 

Now look at it deeper.  That insinuates that reality as we know and define it doesn't really exist until someone says, or thinks, it does.  It's the whole discussion of "if a tree falls in the woods and no one is around to hear it fall, does it make a sound?"  According to physics, no, it doesn't.  Only by recognizing and assigning it a label do we make it "real."

How do we transfer this lesson to our lives?  Think about it.  How many times have you and a group of friends all witnessed the same event and each person has a different spin on what really happened?  Or even why it happened?  By standing back and acknowledging all the different perceptions and outcomes that are possible, we can actively choose the "reality" that serves us. 

What do I mean, "the 'reality' that serves us?"  If by observing and labeling an event makes it "real," and that reality brings different feelings and emotions, then those feelings and emotions bring about different consequences (love, hatred, jealousy, competition, acceptance, etc).  If we actively choose our perception of something, then we can choose the reality and the resultant outcome.  For example, you have invested yourself, years of your life, and all the love you have into someone.  They decide they don't want to be with you anymore.  You are crushed.  Not only are you battling rejection and depression, the questioning of your entire being sets in.  After all, you gave them everything you had and it wasn't enough.  Stop....step away. 

Lesson 1...Nothing I see in this room means anything.  It is what it is, or is not.  By choosing a different response, you are ensuring a different outcome.  Pick a different possibility--"it didn't work out because even though we are both incredibly great people with so much to offer, there is someone else out there that is more of who I am and who, in fact, is looking for me."  By accepting things, sending love and release to the other person, you are setting the stage, and choosing the reality that serves you better. 

What is reality?  Nothing.  It's all possibilities and all options.  It's our choices that make it what it is.  Choose wisely...