How many people do you know that live in the past? All they talk about is how great it was "back then," or "remember when." There is a time and place for everything and I have enjoyed some good laughs over memories shared, but when it takes over one's life so that their entire focus is backwards, then I believe it becomes a problem.
One of my greatest teachers in this lifetime is my mother. The woman who taught me how to tie my shoes, brush my teeth, cook and "the social graces," as she refers to them. She still continues to teach me in her 82nd year...but now it's the contrast of what I want in my life.
My mother is suffering from the early stages of dementia. Since my father died over 6 years ago, my mother has for all intents and purposes, died with him. All she does is look back. She has piles of pictures she thumbs through each day remembering the good and the bad, each person and their history. She tells me she lies in bed each morning remembering decades and if she gets it "right," she's proud of herself. I ask her why she doesn't start with the day right before her. She responds with a statement that basically says she is alone with two cats so what's there to feel good about. Oh, now she's in my territory!
I get excited as I tell her about the Senior Center and all the wonderful events and activities they do each and every day. Or the beautiful area she lives in and how exercise and fresh air would do her good. "Think of what you can do today that will create a wonderful tomorrow, Mom," I excitedly tell her. "Your power is in the now. Right now." I continue on with the same vein of thought because this stuff excites me. We are truly the creator of our reality, of our own destiny. As a lyric from a song that often repeats through my head from a CD from Jerry and Esther Hicks on Law of Attraction, "If you want it, you can have it. Just get out of the way."
I invite her for dinner and overnights. To spend time with me and my family. I drop off reading material and CD's that I feel are uplifting and positive in nature. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she can heal herself. She can heal her mind if she surrounds herself with healing light and energy. With good stuff--good thoughts, good people, good feelings. And look forward. Feel good now and use her mind to create what she wants tomorrow. Yesterday is not coming back. Why look that way?
But no, not what she wants to hear or do at all. She rejects it. She refuses to participate. I try again. I get frustrated. I get angry. But why? It is her life. Why am I projecting my own thoughts and beliefs on her and then getting mad when she doesn't "fix" herself or allow me to help her?
A Course in Miracles tells us we are all one and when we feel separated and angry at another for what we perceive as a grievance, we are really attacking ourselves. This is her road, her path, her experience. All I can do is love and accept her. I know she has bought the illusion of this world and the almighty ego. It's a good story and many have bought it at the expense of their peace of mind, and piece of mind (hello, Alzheimers & dementia).
This is her experience. When she is ready, she will re-member what really exists and what is true. Until then, I will learn from the contrast she provides me and continue moving forward. I don't want to go back. I love creating my tomorrow right now!
As I blog on these Lessons in "The Course in Miracles," I will discuss what thoughts and lessons I'm taking from it, but also ask a lot of questions. I am putting out these questions to the general population to answer. I honestly don't know the answer, nor challenging anyone. I am too looking for guidance in all of this.
Lesson 2: I have given everything I see in this room [on this street, this window, in this place, etc] all the meaning that it has for me.
Lesson 2 follows Lesson 1 in that by looking, recognizing and labeling objects, it gives them meaning. This is especially true as to the feeling it engenders. By giving something a feeling or emotion, I am giving it "meaning." Theoretically, it isn't until I note it as "X-Y-Z" does it serve anything in my reality, nor even exist, according to Quantum Physics. Some part of me must be aware.
Okay, I catch what they're throwing, but what about those times when out of the blue, something happens? Like you're hiking along and wham, you get bitten by a snake. People that know me realize that is my fear and probably not a good example. Because I fear snakes, they are in my reality. By that energy that fear produces, I bring them to me. Let's change the story to represent an entirely freaky accident--something that has everyone scratching their head wondering what the heck. If something comes totally out of the blue, and because you're not expecting nor acknowledging it in any way, why does it happen if it "doesn't exist?"
Neal Donald Walsch noted this phenomena in "Conversations with God." He said that we are all operating in a certain energy field and that energy field is individual but also a group creation. So, if the person and/or group believes that bad things happen to good people, or weird and crazy stuff goes down, then they put themselves at risk of it happening. Because a part of them believes this stuff can happen, it does. This opens up a bigger idea, a bigger thought....
....what if, because of 2012 and all of the "end-of-times" beliefs out there, that energy of belief is combining to create the natural disasters we are currently seeing more of? We are literally manifesting our beliefs! To change our reality, we need to think, say, and act. We think about the disasters, we talk about them, we predict more coming, and then the resultant energy waves respond with creating them. It verifies the process all over again. Group consciousness at work.
We are energy. That is verifiable. What we identify and give meaning to, makes it real. Like our very core of cells is made up of elements and atoms, we attract those elements in our frequency and repel those that are not. For the good of mother earth, and all of life as we know it, let's work on this core lesson. Heck, we might even save the planet!